When your partner is diagnosed with cancer, it’s a big adjustment for everyone. How to cope with your partner’s diagnosis is just as important as how they deal with their cancer. But when both you and your spouse are diagnosed with cancer, it takes an incredible relationship to get through it all. And that’s just what Pam and Steve Phipps are doing.

Young, healthy and happy, Pam and Steve were raising their three kids, when Steve was diagnosed with a brain cancer. Because the cancer could not be surgically removed, he went through a year of targeted chemotherapy treatment. Almost a year later, Pam had a routine mammogram, which required a biopsy. The biopsy revealed that she had breast cancer.

“I was probably in the best shape of my life. And I’m like, oh, no way,” says Pam. Having two parents dealing cancer was also very difficult for their kids. “We tell them here’s what is happening. Here’s what’s going on. Dad’s doing this medicine. Mom’s doing this. Dad’s going to be tired. Mom’s going to be tired. We’ve told them everything and what to expect,” adds Steve.

“Just like anything in life, this is what it is. this is how we’re going to deal with it. This is how we’re going to get through it,” Pam says. “It might change our life a little bit right now, but we’re going to get through it. And we’re going to get through it as a family and not let it interrupt our lives as much as we can.”